I’m not saying Emma shouldn’t be with Hook because he killed her grandfather. If I were, I would be a hypocrite because I ship her with Regina, who not only killed her other grandfather but mass murdered people, killed her OWN father, cast the dark curse, and generally made Emma’s life hell for a sustained period of time.I’m not saying Hook hasn’t changed. The show has made it quite clear that he’s given up his murderous ways, that he feels remorse for killing people in the past, that he is trying to be a better man.
I’m not even saying she shouldn’t be with Hook.
I actually like(d) Hook and shipped Captain Swan before I re-watched the series and fell hard for Swan Queen (We do not choose our ships; they hit us over the head with the concussion of True Love.). I don’t mind that Hook isn’t perfect, that he doesn’t have this whole redemption thing figured out! I don’t mind that he falls into bad habits trying to defend himself from the consequences of his past (okay, I do mind, but I would understand it)! I don’t mind that he’s not immediately running to Emma to say “Hey, I killed your grandfather, just found out two seconds ago, forgive me?”
What I mind, more than anything, is that there’s a pattern of behavior when Hook does fall back into his old ways, Emma excuses him IMMEDIATELY, without reacting to or seeming to have her OWN FEELINGS about what he’s done.
That is what doesn’t feel like Emma to me, because Emma reacts to EVERYTHING. What does she do when Regina frames her for stealing confidential client files? She takes a chainsaw to Regina’s apple tree.
When she finds out that Neal is Rumple’s son, that he kept that from her and left her on Pinocchio’s say-so, she’s angry. She reacts to the revelation before she acknowledges that if he had told her, she would have thought he was nuts. She brings it up again when he asks her about her doing magic, saying that Rumplestiltskin’s son maybe doesn’t get to be judgy about her using magic.
Before Emma and Hook are together, when he comes to New York and kisses her, she shoves him away from her and slams the door on him. Then, when he again approaches her, she calls the cops on him and has him arrested (before she finds the photos in Neal’s apartment).
When Zelena curses Hook’s lips and he tells Emma about it, she doesn’t really want him tagging along to the farmhouse with her–and even though she does save him with mouth-to-mouth, she’s still not falling over herself to kiss him again. She’s still annoyed.
When Snow gets worried about Emma and pulls back on giving baby Neal to her because her magic is acting up, Emma reacts. She’s hurt. She’s afraid. She’s a little angry (and a lot angry later, when Ingrid riles her up).
When she finds out her parents, who held themselves up as heroes, as the good guys, stole Maleficent’s baby to remove Emma’s darkness, she’s pissed at them. She doesn’t immediately forgive them.
But with Hook after they’re together?
He colludes with Rumple to avoid Rumple telling Emma that he still has darkness in him–instead of owning up to hurting Will. Later, when Hook sucks the fairies into the Sorcerer’s Hat, Rumple had his heart, which you can’t blame him for. But when he threatens to tell Belle the truth about the dagger, when he punches Will, when he acts aggressively toward Emma, when he omits telling anyone the truth about all of those things, he was acting in his own best interest. But the only mention of it is when Emma says, “You didn’t have a choice.”
He kills Merlin; Emma covers it up. (I get why maybe she didn’t bring that up in the Underworld, considering she was at least partly to blame for the whole thing. I just wish the two of them had had a conversation that acknowledged that they both did horrible things as DOs and that they should try to do better from now on (like Snow and Charming after the baby-stealing episode).)
He keeps the shears against Emma’s express wishes and then lies to her about them. Emma’s like, “Oh, that’s fine. I would have done the same thing.” (This in particular made me SO MAD, because if anyone did that to me I’d be absolutely emotional about it and rage and talk to all my friends to see if I was blowing it out of proportion, and let’s just say that I consider myself slightly more emotionally stable than Emma ‘Chainsaw’ Swan.)
So yeah, IF Hook keeps this from her for a significant length of time (which he might not! I could be totally wrong!) and IF Emma just accepts it (which she might not! I could be totally wrong!) I’ll be ticked off. Because it’s a pattern. Because it doesn’t fit with how Emma reacts at other times or to other people or even to Hook prior to them being together.